Nette

.. I am very interested in finding a way to end Domestic Violance! Everyone in the world knows a person who is or has been abused by their significant other and most people don't want to get involved or help. Many just look the other way and some police officers do the same thing making the victim feel like they deserved the abuse! Trust me I know from experiance!! But Domestic Violance is wrong and people need to take a stand against it! I am interested in many things and love to learn.

Violent Behavior is an Abuser's Choice

Reasons we know an abuser's behaviors are not about anger and rage:

* He does not batter other individuals - the boss who does not give him time off or the gas station attendant that spills gas down the side of his car. He waits until there are no witnesses and abuses the person he says he loves.
* If you ask an abused woman, "can he stop when the phone rings or the police come to the door?" She will say "yes". Most often when the police show up, he is looking calm, cool and collected and she is the one who may look hysterical. If he were truly "out of control" he would not be able to stop himself when it is to his advantage to do so.
* The abuser very often escalates from pushing and shoving to hitting in places where the bruises and marks will not show. If he were "out of control" or "in a rage" he would not be able to direct or limit where his kicks or punches land.