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  • THE BRUTAL TRUTH from RHONNIE

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    RHONNIE SPEAKS
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    get the entire issue of my bi-monthly ezine to stop child crimes HERE
    www.livingafterabuse.com/truth.html

    Bringing the world of Child Abuse into the proper perspective for the 'average' person who has not lived the life is one of the most difficult tasks to do.

    As an adult, forced to live this horrible life as a child; a sister who watched her siblings suffer; an adult who struggled with addictions; who is a person who struggled to find 'normalcy' and balance; one who had fought hard to NOT repeat the dangerous cycles of abuse; I learned just how important it was to be a good mother and to give my children the best start I could.

    It has been my greatest passion in life to bring knowledge to the public of the seriousness of this horrible Crime Committed Against Children in the most comprehensive manner, designed to penetrate the shield of Apathy of the Public in general!

    I have done everything I could to accomplish this.

    I have written an Award Winning Book, So, What's Normal? Life After Pedophilia, Abuse and Neglect about my own personal life
    have been on over 50 Talk Radio Shows
    have an Informative website on the subject: www.livingafterabuse.com which has over 75,000 visitors per years since 2003
    Am a Public Speaker
    Speak to Survivor groups
    have an E-Zine called 'The Brutal Truth'
    Am the CEO/Founder of: Leaps and Bounds, Inc. (a non-profit organization) started for the sole purpose of helping survivors.


    Yet, it still hasn't been enough! Every project mentioned has cost 10's of thousands of dollars, funded strictly by my husband and me. For some reason I thought there were so many people out there waiting to jump in and help! What worthier cause is there in this whole world other than saving children? I was wrong. I'm frazzled!



    I really had to sit myself down and ask myself 'WHY'!!!

    First: merely writing a book, putting it out there doesn't work as you cannot force anybody to read it!
    Secondly: a website is just another avenue for those who would like a 'quick' fix to an immediate problem they are facing.
    Third: Too many people will not part with their own $$$ to help out..even if they, themselves are survivors! How tragic; How sad!
    Fourth and Sadly: There are too many who will not roll up there sleeves and get 'their' hands dirty.


    Getting off your butt and doing something about Child Abuse/Molestation is extremely hard. I will be the first to admit rolling up your sleeves and getting your hands dirty is not easy.. most of the time it seems you are making little to no progress, instead of moving forward you are moving backwards or standing still.

    Believe me; it is easier to say..I give up!!!! I'm done!!!! I don't want to think about this anymore!!!! I don't want to do this anymore!!! I WANT MY LIFE BACK!!!!

    Then, I realize.. This is my life, my passion!

    So, I roll my sleeves up a little further, stop my whining and jump back in and get back to work!

    We are currently working on Public Service Announcements as well as getting all of our 'ducks in a row' for a Documentary.   This will take some time as my husband and I will fund this project also.

    I feel refreshed and ready to go again as soon as finances permit !!!!  Even though living this life can be a curse, it can also be the greatest Bleassing.  I thank God for Everything!!!



    Please send me your thoughts and ideas!!!!



    RHONNIE
    www.livingafterabuse.com
    www.livingafterabuse.com/truth.html
    Copyright © 2006 Leaps and Bounds, Inc and RHONNIE
  • >>>.WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON.<<<

    There  is  never  a  lack of subject matter to write about when it comes to Child Molestation.  However, the Press does not always protray Child Molestation in the proper light.  The Press did get it right as demonstrated by the horrors of the children murdered at the hands of Sex Offenders in the State of Florida.

    The people of Florida became OUTRAGED, and that OUTRAGE brought about necessary changes.  New laws were put on the fast track and have passed as a direct result of the people of Florida taking a hard stand and demanding Justice!                                  

    Why does it take OUTRAGE?  Simply stated, sympathy isn't enough, empathy passes quickly...but OUTRAGE provokes action. It is the one feeling we all possess that stirs and churns our souls.  People must become OUTRAGED in order to bring about these types of changes.  Florida is a perfect example of Community OUTRAGE!                                                    


    HERE IS WHAT WE KNOW:

    Almost 10% of all Child Protective Service reports are substantiated, while  nearly 90% remain unsubstantiated.  Do you really believe there are that many reports that are unsubstantiated?  I don't!        

     

    Our system  is  still  not protecting our kids enough.  I know many who work in the field and within the system; they  know  our system is broken and concur the likelihood of it changing is minimal.                    


    I now believe in order to move forward that we must first go back to our first Child Protection roots...the Original case of Mary Ellen Wilson.                           




    At 10 years old and the size and weight of a 5 year old, a battered, bruised, beaten  and  cut  Mary Ellen Wilson made her  court  debut which forever changed history and led to the founding of The New York Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children in 1874.                                                                    


    Due to a series of unfortunate circumstances in Mary Ellen's childhood, she was placed in the  care  of  the Department of Charities   who then   illegally   placed   her in  a  home  where  she  would  endure numerous years  of  abuse  and  torture  at the hands  of her adult caregivers!                                              


    Etta Wheeler, a compassionate woman stumbled upon  Mary Ellen's situation and  began the lengthy battle to try and save her from  her circumstances.   Because there  were  few  laws  in  place to protect children and the ones which were on the books  were vague and left to much to interpretation, the courts refused to get involved.                            


    Etta's   relentless   efforts   took   her  to  Mr. Berg, from  t he SPCA (Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals) to assist her  in the rescue  of  this  child.   Mr. Berg  did  agree  to   assist  and  together they   brought   Mary  Ellen's  case  to  court.   Mr.  Berg  understood the power  of the Press and made sure they were informed about this case  and  they  did  witness  the  first  Child  Abuse  case  which was brought to court through the SPCA.            

    Because   the   Press   did   write   (and  got  it right)   about Mary Ellen's horrific  condition  and  the   lack of  laws  Protecting Children,  there was  an  OUTRAGE  that  spanned  across  our Country  and  abroad.  Human   compassion was  ignited!  150   Cities implemented  Child Protection laws  that  same  year ! 


     We all need to ask ourselves:

    • Do you believe that Child Abuse is a Crime?
    • Do you believe our Child Protection laws have kept up with the fast changing times  this last 131 years?
    • Do  you  think that the ASPCA (American Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Animals) would ever return a badly abused animal to the home it was abused in  and/or   Do  you think that our Child Protective System would ever return a badly abused child to the home he/she was abused in?
    • Do  our  laws  protecting  animals  evenly  parallel our laws protecting our children?

    • If Child Abuse is a Crime, then why is it that a Crime so heinous is handed off to a State Agency who in most cases are not qualified as Criminal Investigators.
    • Does   it  seem  the  laws  in  place  today  offer  more  protection  to  the perpetrator rather than the victim. 

     

    • Did you  know the  Amendments  to  the 'Bill of Rights'  were  ratified  and went into effect in 1791 while 83 years later the first Child Cruelty laws went into affect?
    • Doesn't it stand to reason that the Sixth Amendment  was NEVER designed to pit and adult abuser in a position to intimidate his child accuser (to confront his accuser) in a courtroom? 
    • Don't you think we need to take a serious look at this and make the necessary changes to it?

    Can you see the Police handing over a murder allegation to a State Agency  for Investigation to 'substantiate' it, before it can be considered a crime?  How about a bank robbery?  How about an Adult Rape?  How about an Assault and Battering? ............No, I didn't think you could!          

    Our communities do not look at Child Abuse as a heinous Crime because it is NOT treated like a heinous Crime!   This is a BIG problem!  This will remain a BIG problem until we petition our State and Federal Governments to take Child Abuse allegations out of the hands of State Agencies and make it a Police matter only!   Qualified (Police) Criminal Investigators should handle allegations of this Crime!   Child Abuse is a Crime, and it needs to always be treated as a Crime!  ( I do feel personally there is a need for our State Agencies, however, not for handling crimes such as this )                                                          

    Because the ASPCA was so instrumental in bringing the first Child Abuse case to court, I feel it is important to draw the correlation between ASPCA and our State Agencies (Child and Family Agencies).   For some reason, the ASPCA gets it!  They do not return a badly abused animal back to the home where it was originally abused!  However, our Agencies (protecting children) don't seem to get it!!!   Our system feels that a little counseling here and there will fix the problem and the children can then be returned to live in the home with those whom originally abused them.   How crazy is that?                                                 


    And.....I do believe we need to take another look at the Sixth Amendment.  Because it was written 83 years before Child Cruelty laws came about, it clearly did not have children in mind when it was written.  
     I just feel we need to get up Speed here!!!                   


    So, with a 'sprinkle'  of Etta  Wheelers Compassion, and a 'dash' of the State of Florida's sense of Urgency and Boldness, we can  put new laws and legislation on a fast track in our own States or Countries. There doesn't need to be another tragedy before we act!  Our human compassion needs to be re-ignited.              


    Rhonnie

    www.livingafterabuse.com

     

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